Dealing With A Bully

Published by Dick Schaefer, Unpaid, Part-time Contributing Writer and Amateur Investigative Reporter

Sometimes when you speak the TRUTH and take an unpopular stand, you may find yourself the target of a bully.  Usually you will experience this in the form of verbal bullying.  But the bullying can turn nasty and become physical if you don't handle it correctly.

I found the following article on WikiHow   (http://www.wikihow.com/) and thought I would publish it here as a public service announcement for our readers.  This article is written primarily for the benefit of school age children.  If you happen to have a child or grandchild who is being bullied on the playground or in the classroom, teach them how to deal effectively with the bully who is causing them trouble.

If you are being harassed by an adult bully, you may be able to apply these same principles in dealing your bully.  Afterall, an adult bully is just a playground bully who never really grew up and matured mentally and emotionally.  They have an inferiority complex which makes them seek power and stature by bullying others.

Well, here's the article from WikiHow .....

How to Deal With Verbal Bullying

Many people say that physical bullying is the worst kind.

That can be bad, but there is also verbal bullying. Verbal bullying is bad because it makes you look weak, while making the bully look tough and dominant. Verbal bullying can result in many outcomes, some good, some bad, depending on how you deal with the bully.

Steps

1. Ignore the bully. It's hard to shrug off the insults, rumors, and remarks, but if you make it look like the name-calling isn't harming you, then the bully loses power and confidence.  If the bully still doesn't stop talk to a teacher or a parent, someone you can trust. 
2. Know that verbal bullies often have their friends join in the "fun". Make the main bully look weak in front of their friends by ignoring them by pretending that they're not even there.
3. Tell a teacher, trusted adult, or parent if the bullying is consistent. Make sure you ask to be kept anonymous.
4. Remain civil, no matter what. Getting aggressive might provoke them to use physical bullying, and you could get in trouble with your parents or school. Moreover, dealing with their insults in a civilized manner could make them seem immature in comparison.
5. Don't Listen to the rumors the bully says about you. Don't bother trying to tell everyone they're not true. Doing this may make you sound like you're trying to cover up something.
6. Walk away if the bully is actually insulting you to your face, as this makes them look weak. Do this if the insult really hurts, so you can walk away and deal with it yourself.
7. Tell someone how you feel; if you don't have a close friend, talk to your school's guidance counselor. If they can't solve the problem, they can at least give you some advice, or help you cope with the pain.

I hope this information has been helpful to you.  If your child or grandchild is being bullied, give them the confidence to deal effectively with their tormentor.  Teach them to stand up to their bully.  Teach them to take power over their bully.  This will be a valuable lesson for your child or grandchild.  They will benefit greatly from your teaching and advice all throughout their lives. 

NOTICE:  For any bully or would be bully who is reading this article, please be aware that we will not tolerate bullying on this site.  You are welcome to offer your comments.  We have no issue with commenters who disagree with our opinions and viewpoints.  In fact, we welcome them just as we welcome supportive comments.  Differences of opinion and viewpoint are healthy.  They make for some really good discussions, and all of us here at Hermann Hearsay enjoy lively debates.  Just don't ever try to bully or intimidate me nor any other Hermann Hearsay reporter nor any of our loyal readers.  This is a "BULLY FREE ZONE".  Bullying will NOT be tolerated on Hermann Hearsay.

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